For users with problems around cypersex and pornography
If you have found your way to the Porn Recovery UK site, then you won't need to be told about the issues and difficulties porn has brought into your life. You might need to know more about how bad it can become, though; how much it can steal from you - your family, your job (even your liberty, if you go looking in the wrong places). If you really want to see the sort of mess it can make of your life or the lives of others around you, there are hundreds of websites out there. Take a look at the Porn Recovery UK blog pages if you really want to challenge and inform yourself.
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How bad's my addiction?
Although it is possible to describe an average addict through statistics and case studies, men and women who feel they have a problem with porn and cybersex are all very different. Some feel they have an issue they want to deal with if they find they have to use porn too often; others measure their difficulties by the amount of time they spend engaged in it. Your personal social history can greatly affect the sorts of difficulties you feel you have – for example, your religious upbringing, political beliefs and moral codes might all have an impact on the personal response you have to cybersex, pornography and the use of other sexual services. At Porn Recovery UK the thing that matters is how you feel. Read about how Ellen first started looking at porn, or Marc's way in or look at some statistics about porn usage.
But go on, compare me
If you really want to compare yourself to an addict, find out how Marc became one. In TURNED ON: Intimacy in a pornized society you can come to understand some of the wider issues around porn, cybersex and the way it can make so many people, including users, 'victims'. Turned On is a psychotherapy novel. It's quick to read, not full of 'things you must do to get better' and tells how porn addiction really is for a middle aged, serious user.
Turned On is not an easy read – but not for the reasons you might think. Non-users sometimes find it a challenge because it takes a no-holds-barred approach – telling porn how it really is, shining a light into the shadow of porn. Addicts find some parts of the book difficult because they say they find it an all-too accurate picture of the sorts of things they have thought or done at some point in their lives of porn.
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